Focus on Each Other, Not the Camera
A common mistake during photo sessions is looking straight at the camera too often. While a few classic portraits are great, most genuine smiles happen when you’re focused on each other. Talk to your spouse. Make your kids laugh. Share a silly moment. The photographer is watching for those natural interactions—and that’s when the best shots happen. Looking at someone you love creates a softer expression and helps ease nerves. Try holding hands or gently touching shoulders to keep the moment grounded.
Let Kids Be Themselves
You don’t need your children to behave perfectly. In fact, a little unpredictability often leads to the best photos. If your toddler wants to be held, that’s okay. If your child bursts out laughing or makes a goofy face, let it happen. Trying to control every moment can backfire. Instead, allow some flexibility. Trust your photographer to capture real joy, even in the chaos. Kids respond best when they feel like they’re part of the fun, not being told what to do.
Avoid Saying “Smile!”
It seems helpful, but telling your kids to “smile” often results in stiff or forced expressions. Real smiles come from emotion, not instruction. Try telling a joke, making a funny noise, or even whispering a secret in their ear. These small interactions create a natural mood that makes everyone forget they’re being photographed. Another option is to ask your child a silly question like “Do you think the photographer has jellybeans in their pockets?” Their reactions will feel real—and often contagious.
Wear Something Comfortable
If you feel awkward in your outfit, it will show in your face. Choose clothes that make you feel relaxed and confident. Avoid anything itchy, too tight, or hard to move in—especially for kids. Coordinated colors are great, but comfort matters just as much if not more. When you feel at ease, your smile will follow. Stick with fabrics that breathe, shoes you can stand in, and layers you can adjust in case it’s warmer or cooler than expected.
Don’t Worry About Perfection
Some of the most loved photos are the imperfect ones. A crooked grin, a mid-laugh expression, a messy hair moment—these tell a real story. Trying to make everything look flawless can get in the way of letting your true personality shine. The best sessions feel like play, not performance. You might not remember what was said in the moment, but you’ll remember how you felt when you look back at the images.
Plan Something Fun Before or After
Set the tone by doing something enjoyable before your session—play music in the car, grab a treat, or take a walk. If everyone arrives in a good mood, the smiles come more easily. You can also plan something fun for afterward as a reward, especially if you have little ones. This gives everyone a reason to associate the session with good memories. Even talking about your post-shoot plans during the session can keep energy up.
Let Go and Trust the Photographer
The more relaxed you are, the better your photos will be. You don’t need to manage the session or worry about how you look in every shot. Your photographer knows how to guide the moment and spot the best angles. Let go of expectations. Just enjoy your family and let the camera capture that connection. Remember: a photo session is not a test—it’s a chance to celebrate your time together.
Real Smiles Start With Real Moments
You don’t need to fake anything. Real smiles come from feeling present, seen, and loved. When your family shows up as yourselves, the camera captures more than just faces—it captures feelings. And that’s what makes the photo session truly meaningful.